Friday, July 3, 2015

My First 4th Of July in Phoenix

As I was shopping for my little fourth of July gathering tomorrow I started thinking about my first year of celebrating the 4th in Phoenix.

It was 1989 and we moved from Tucson to the big city. As silly as it seems it was a culture shock for me even though I was less than 200 miles away from my old stomping grounds. It was a whole new ball game in Phoenix - difficult meeting people, everyone rushing, few mom and pops businesses, not so friendly people, and lots of traffic. Anyway, we decided to take the kids to one of the big 4th celebrations at Wesley Bolin Plaza.

 On our drive home they all needed the bathroom, so needless to say the argument was who would be first to the toilet. My daughter Melissa jumped out of the car as soon as we pulled in the driveway and begin ringing the doorbell - little did we know that signaled the robber inside that we had arrived. My husband opened the door and I noticed his shot gun in the entry way. I asked him why he left his gun laying around like that, and then we heard our bedroom door slam shut ...WELCOME TO PHOENIX!
We all ran out the door together I thought, but after doing a head count my husband was still inside with our intruder, and my eldest daughter Tiffanie was already down the block because she kicks into survival mode in an emergency. (her survival )

Thankfully all ended well with some minor potato clean up, and paint touch up on the kitchen door from my dog going crazy because she was eager to get out to greet our robber. The police laughed at me for locking her up, but I didn't want the fireworks to scare her - lesson learned!

It's such a crazy memory to have, and it's actually pretty comical now when we talk about that night because there's so many funny things that we said and did in our panic mode.
FYI: We're probably not the family to team up with in a dangerous situation.

Happy 4th - make it a safe one!

Peace, Love & Hugs!

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

I Took The Plunge!

I took the plunge and in a couple of weeks I will have to be accountable for my time by working for someone other than myself. I'm excited to get out of my comfort zone! (the comfort of my home) But I'm more excited by the idea of a regular income on my part because as an entrepreneur it's a feast or famine life at times.

 My husband asked me if I was excited to begin working. I said, "Of course, I love being a slave to the man." Don't start emailing me because I used the word slave - I'm just being honest with what I said. I'll rephrase it by saying, Of course, I love being a worker to the man. Better?


It's been many many years since I interviewed for a job so I hadn't experienced a background check or a drug/alcohol test in my life. As I sat patiently in the facility for my alcohol/drug test (3 hours) I began to question how much I really wanted a job, but I stayed and considered inquiring about a position since no one seemed to understand the value of time. I thought perhaps I could help them to become more efficient and aware.

Once getting called to the testing area I was handed a key and told to lock up my belonging, keep the key, wash my hands, and pee to a line on the cup - no less or no more.  There was no sorry we kept you waiting or how are you pleasantries, but she did acknowledge me asking how she was with a smile. My thought was she's burnt out on handing out the key and the pee cup - understandable!
My only complaint once entering the assigned bathroom was the urine splattered behind the seat - maybe wiping the bathroom down needs to be added to someones job. I don't use public restrooms because I have germ issues, so this almost made me politely hand her the cup back and forget about working outside of my home - I decided I'd face my fear.

I was thankful when the experience of  the drug/alcohol test had ended, and assumed that I would hear from my future employer in a couple of days - not the case! A week had gone by and I started to question my wine intake along with wondering if my identity had been stolen and I had done some bad stuff that I wasn't aware of.
Finally, the call came on Monday stating that all is good and it's a go.

Life is about to change a little for me, but I will continue my Life Coaching, Murraytalk Facebook Page, and a few days of blogging.

Can't wait to start the new journey!
Peace, Love & Hugs!

Monday, June 29, 2015

I'm Addicted to...

Happy Monday!

I had a nice quiet boring weekend. I'm beginning to think that I'm so use to functioning when chaos and busyness are consuming my life, that I drive myself crazy when there's not a fire to put out or million things to get done. What the hell is my problem? When everything is crazy I'm praying for some calmness, and when the storm has seized, I'm praying for something to keep me busy.

I honestly think that I'm addicted to being busy; which is partly why I drink a glass of wine in the evening. (partly) I'm forced to sit since I always spill on myself and everything I pass when I try to multitask with it in my hand. (red wine stains are a pain to get out)
 I decided it's time for me to reprogram my mind just a bit. I don't want to become sedentary, but I do want to enjoy relaxing. I don't believe it should feel like a chore. As I thought of myself trying to slow down and smell the roses, I couldn't help but think of kids today. They go from one activity to another, school work has become more difficult and demanding of their time, which leaves them with virtually no time to decompress or learn the art of self-entertaining. Are we creating a society with a busy addiction?
I'm going to assume this addiction (if it's really an addiction) is probably less deeply rooted and not as dangerous as other addictions, but an addiction is an addiction. I already know that I have an addictive personality - this is why I try to stay clear of casinos. When addicted to something we are being stimulated from it, so as that stimulation desensitizes over time a bigger jolt (high) is needed - which explains why I feel the need to be busier the older I become. I'm no longer being stimulated by my current level of busyness. I know it sounds crazy but that's the conclusion I came to after analyzing myself.
 So after my client session today I'm putting laundry away, mopping, light straightening and fluffing, preparing dinner, and sitting for at least an hour as I enjoy my surroundings. I'm refusing to add to that list unless my daughter goes into labor. In that case, it's a whole new ballgame!

Don't underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can't hear, and not bothering.  ~Pooh's Little Instruction Book, inspired by A.A. Milne

 Peace, Love & Hugs!

Friday, June 26, 2015

Talking Kindness

I was talking to my granddaughter about kindness the beginning of this week...thought I'd share what a five year old thinks about it.

Peace, Love & Hugs!

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Be Careful...

Everyone that knows me well understands why I love quotes. I truly believe that quotes can work for healing and change, but you have to be aware with what you're feeding your mind.

You shouldn't buy into all of the messages, remember anyone can create a quote - I do it all the time! I'm beginning to have issues with quite a few that I've been reading lately because there unrealistic. I'm an optimist, but I'm also a realist. Realistically the grass isn't always greener, we all don't get to work our passion, people love the best that they know how, you can't have everything you want out of life, sometimes if you let people go they don't come back - not because it wasn't meant to be, sometimes people just move on with their life. YOLO (widely over used) doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy, you should have to say your sorry, and sometimes you should have get where I'm going with this. There's boundaries and limits in life. People work the jobs that they have even if it's not their passion because they're responsible and know they have bills to pay/people to take care of.
There's just a lot of selfishness and nonsense in some of these quotes that are floating around. I also don't believe that everything in life happens for a reason - sometimes things happen because there's dumb ass people that do horrible/stupid stuff, and we all don't get a happy ending - not because it was meant to be.

I'm not opposed to quotes so I hope I'm not sending the wrong message. I will always read and continue to post them because I contribute quotes in facilitating my change process. I'm just saying be cautious with what you're filling your mind with.  Protect your mind!

Peace, Love & Hugs!

Monday, June 22, 2015

You're Beautifully Created

So much on my mind today, but I'm going to focus on insecurity. in·se·cu·ri·ty
uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.
"she had a deep sense of insecurity"
synonyms: lack of confidence, self-doubt, diffidence, unassertiveness, timidity, uncertainty, nervousness, inhibition;

I've had a few sessions lately that saddens me. I wish people would learn to value themselves so they can accept themselves as they are - not by comparison. There will always be someone smarter, prettier, funnier, making more money, more adventurous, etc. - this has nothing to do with you. You have to learn to value who you are - treat yourself like your best friend!
Also, learn to use empowering words when describing/speaking to others about yourself. 

You are beautifully and wonderfully made - remember that!  Genesis 1:27, “God created man in his own image...male and female he created them.”

Start today by taking baby steps towards loving and valuing the person that you were created to be. Don't let insecurities control and ruin your life.
carolyn murray

Peace, Love, & Hugs!